My Son stayed at his Girlfriends over the weekend, for which I gave him some money to make it lovely for his girlfriend and himself to enjoy Valentines together; They have been together over three years.
Today I went out to lunch with my closest friend, her Son and my young Nephew, and it was lovely to get out and just have fun. I ate too much, enjoyed catching up with my friend. Never fail to be amazed at how tall her Son grows each time and love the company of my Nephew any time, though he`s at present at that cheeky age!
Valentines day to me, is a day when a lot of people set their expectations high only for their partner to disappoint, and be left wondering what all the fuss is about. I do agree that we should tell those we love that we do for 365 days a year, not just one, but it`s also nice to make an extra fuss if they want them to feel extra special. Like everything though it`s over commercialised and been made to look tacky, as has Christmas, easter, ect.
Since my Son grew with a thirst for history, it has grown on me, a subject that never interested me at school unless it was about the second world war as kings and Queens always seemed boring. Valentines day though has quite an interesting history in itself and I always believed it was started by the Victorians, but I was wrong!
“There are varying opinions as to the origin of Valentine’s Day. Some experts state that it originated from St. Valentine, a Roman who was martyred for refusing to give up Christianity. He died on February 14, 269 A.D., the same day that had been devoted to love lotteries. Legend also says that St. Valentine left a farewell note for the jailer’s daughter, who had become his friend, and signed it “From Your Valentine”. Other aspects of the story say that Saint Valentine served as a priest at the temple during the reign of Emperor Claudius. Claudius then had Valentine jailed for defying him. In 496 A.D. Pope Gelasius set aside February 14 to honour St. Valentine.”
I myself haven`t found this year as hard as the last few since my Husband left, as it was always a stark reminder that I was now alone again, in my 40s, and the rejection unbearable at times. This year I have hardly given it any thought, so I must be cured of my grief at last for which I feel a huge relief!
Id secretly like next year to be different, as I don`t relish the thought of growing old with only my pets as company, who does if they are honest?. I do though stick by my decision that I want to be 98% that they will be good, kind and genuine, as much as anyone can when they get involved with anyone. (There are never guarantees with anything.) I refuse to rush into anything though, take is slow is my now motto.