I thought id dedicate this post to my online dating as I find the characters I come across as quite a mixed bunch!
Just today for instance I received a message from a man of 70! I politely let him down but as I was writing wondered what was going through his mind as he wrote to me. I do seem to get a lot of much older men send me messages; I try not to let all my assumptions rest on my being disabled, but couldn`t help but think maybe he thought that id be grateful for anyone.
I get chatting to different men, who in time a lot seem to have mental health issues, such as PTSD, Anxiety or panics attacks or they have a physical disability of their own too. Is this because they feel Id have more empathy as I have a disability?
There`s the group that chat to me each time they see me, about their days, dinner and DATES, until eventually they tell me they`ve found someone but STILL want to be friends; Often they`ve even suggested meeting up beforehand, but I must have missed the point or they did, lol. *shrugs*
The occasional foreign message will come through on my facebook page of these blogs, usually in Asia and wanting to be my boyfriend or even marry me, what`s that about? I tend not to answer those at all.
The sexual predators are both sometimes creepy and sometimes just funny. Some are direct and it`s their first sentence that they want to `make love` to me! I`ve been asked some right choice questions, one that took me back was `Do you prefer your hand or toys?` It beggers belief what makes them think they can ask a total stranger some of the things I get asked. The favourite question is `can you have sex?` Often before they initiate any further questions or conversation, obviously they`re not interested in someone who can`t.
On a positive note, I chat and have chatted to some nice, decent men and they help to restore my faith. It`s always been my personal decision not to chat to men abroad but I answered a guy in New york who has MS, and we now chat regually and new friends are always a bonus! It`s interesting swapping how different or similar our two countries are. Even though we speak the same language we don`t always understand each others colloquialisms.
Id left the free site a while ago, as I have done before by `hiding` my page. Every blue moon i`ll still get a message from someone that used to chat to me and I go and look, it`s nice that they don`t forget me. Sometimes I`m pleased as it`ll be a guy I liked, sometimes not, this week it was someone I had liked chatting to and he left me his mobile number and told me “It`d be lovely hearing from you.”