Winter is setting in here in the UK. The evenings are getting darker, colder and the fruit trees are hanging heavy for mabons harvest. My Mother has already seen a Robin and I`m typing this in my dressing gown at 22:32 on Friday the 13th. (I`m not superstitious about the number 13 or fridays.) The Greek words for
|paraskevi – Friday||dekatria – thirteen||-phobia – indicates fear|
There are too numerous reasons why both the number 13 and Fridays are held as unlucky, and it`s down to the individual as to how you feel about this day I think.
My Son always says I am a hippy, and I laugh and wind him up even more, but yes basically I do actually believe that love is the answer to a lot of things and lack of love and security brings about a lot of sorrow.
Often it is good to know your history, as George Santayana said-“Those who are unaware of history are destined to repeat it.”
I have a relative that died in a asylum in 1915, in those days they were cold unfeeling places where often Women particularly were placed for no real mental health reason, often at just the convenience of a Husband or relative. Thankfully mental health units now have many reviews and people have a lot more control over their own course and treatment. Sadly one of my relatives are presently going through assessment at a psychiatric Hospital, and though it is a worry for us all, I do feel they are in the best place at the moment. I wish them a speedy recovery and wish their Children to have them back soon.
It is the guilt often though of the relatives when someone has a break down, and threatens suicide, and other such threats that is often the hardest to bare. Endless questions of `Did I do, say too much, or not enough? Was it my doing that they feel this way? Could I have done more? Should I have done less?` Mental illness isn`t just hard for the person suffering with it, but everyone around them. Often we blame ourselves when in fact it isn`t our fault, sometimes they just can`t deal with anymore; sometimes it is hormonal or in their family make up, or their problems go far back into their own history.
Mental health myths and facts
- Myth: Mental health problems are very rare.
- Fact: 1 in 4 people will experience a mental health problem in any given year.
- Myth: People with mental illness aren’t able to work.
- Fact: We probably all work with someone experiencing a mental health problem.
- Myth: Young people just go through ups and downs as part of puberty, it’s nothing.
- Fact: 1 in 10 young people will experience a mental health problem.
- Myth: People with mental health illnesses are usually violent and unpredictable.
- Fact: People with a mental illness are more likely to be a victim of violence.
- Myth: People with mental health problems don’t experience discrimination
- Fact: 9 out of 10 people with mental health problems experience stigma and discrimination.
- Myth: It’s easy for young people to talk to friends about their feelings.
- Fact: Nearly three in four young people fear the reactions of friends when they talk about their mental health problems.
- To anyone going through this themselves or love someone going through his, or even just know someone that is going through mental health, just keep talking normally, and if they do want to talk about how they`re feeling, don`t be afraid, just listen, be there, it`s often enough, x.